Never Judge A Situation Too Quickly (And Don’t Believe Everything You Read!)

Whether it be in business or everyday situations it’s super important that we don’t judge a situation too quickly. This is something we face on a day to day basis. I can’t stress how vital it is that we all keep an open mind for the sakes of ourselves and others. The problem is, people usually only realise this when it’s too lat

One of these little moments happened to me last year with one of my old school friends. I was on tour in Malaysia contacting one of my really good friends who for the sake of this blog we’ll call ‘K’. We’d been friends for two years and had helped each other through about a billion and one situations at school. Anyway, I land in Kuala Lumpur Airport and text him like normal. Bare in mind at this point it was like 3 AM in the UK so no reply would have obviously been what I’d expect. I check my phone in the morning, he’s seen the message. No reply. I get it, the amount of times I read messages and then Alexa will remind to trim a cress plant or something, we’ve all been there right? Here’s where it gets weird. A week passes and I’ve sent a few more messages. He’s seen them all. I mean, at this point I’m thinking ‘How much cress does this guy have?!’. 2 MONTHS go by. Nothing. I then asked one of our mutual friends to just ask him what’s going on (understandably). The reply was insane, way bigger than I could’ve thought. This was a long long list of things I’d been accused of doing. What’s interesting about this is a) none of them were true, b) I’d left this school 3 months before the silent treatment started. If anyone’s familiar with 21st century teens, this was a textbook example of an active Snapchat gossip group (or something of the sort).

For the next few months I try everything to try and get hold of him, contact his brother, email, phone. Everything. And my response? Nothing. Look, I would have understood the silence if I’d have done something. Of course I would’ve been annoyed and obviously I sent a text apologising if I had done something that I wasn’t aware of but in my eyes I hadn’t. If I had I would have wanted to have been made aware of it at least, or had the chance to apologise. But I didn’t. What frustrates me is the helplessness of the situation. Nothing I could have said would’ve changed it.

That’s just one of my examples that can be translated into about a million different messages. The most prominent, never judge a situation too quickly. We all do it (and have it done to us), it’s like judging a book by it’s cover. What you see on the outside isn’t always what you get. The only people that can change that is us. It’s easy to go with the first thing we hear. It’s like reading an exam question once, the question may have said multiply the number instead of divide, they’re polar opposites. I don’t hold a grudge against K, of course he isn’t my favourite person the world but this didn’t start from him, it was a chain of events, a group of people that can easily sway someone into a thought. I really hope people learn something from this story as it was a horrible thing to be involved in.

Signing Out,

H